tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post8243639555349022890..comments2024-03-26T02:10:41.394-07:00Comments on Ash Tree Cottage: It's Hard to be a Childless CoupleSusan Freemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-85948986472240492842020-08-17T19:53:27.637-07:002020-08-17T19:53:27.637-07:00“So I’m someone’s mom!” Welcoming our first child,...“So I’m someone’s mom!” Welcoming our first child, Cecily Philips Donnell, at 12:24 p.m. on Tuesday, July 14. We are absolutely head over heels in love with Cecily, and parenthood is already the most insane and beautiful thing in existence, It's made me excited to have a little spitfire of a daughter of my own. I remembered when i found out i was pregnant 3years ago and was about to walk away from the musical. But at eight weeks, i had a miscarriage. i was so unhappy, until i seek help spiritually from a Dr Iya the herbal practitioner, who helps and guide me to get pregnant again, even at the trying times few weeks in April when i battled symptoms of the coronavirus including "a cough that makes it feel like my head is splitting open from the inside out, but luckily, the baby was okay with the doctors help. i am happy to finally be a mother, couples out there that needs help, trying to conceive a baby, contact my doctor on nativeiyabasira@yahoo.com , you will definitely have a baby to make you a parent.Patti Murinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16885974446963578111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-43580524593543461102016-12-09T17:29:08.135-08:002016-12-09T17:29:08.135-08:00I want to thank Dr.Agbazara for his job in my fami...I want to thank Dr.Agbazara for his job in my family, this is man who left me and the kids for another woman without any good reasons, i was pain and confuse,till one day when i saw Dr.Agbazara contact, then i contacted him and he help me cast a reunion spell that help my situation with 48hours, since I then the situation has changed, everything is moving well, my husband who left me is now back to his family. reach DR.AGBAZARA TEMPLE via email if you have any problem at: <br />( agbazara@gmail.com ) <br />OR whatsapp or call him on +2348104102662<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04960282304746881161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-59854964615755247932016-09-28T15:35:59.421-07:002016-09-28T15:35:59.421-07:00I am sorry that you are having a hard time is soci...I am sorry that you are having a hard time is social events finding someone to feel comfortable with. It always makes me sad when people can't seem to realize that some people have various reasons for not having children and it is a private issue between the two of them. I hope that you find a group of people who mind their own business that you can be comfortable with.Sheryl992https://www.blogger.com/profile/16138421605760965711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-51747261510710370882016-09-23T00:58:49.888-07:002016-09-23T00:58:49.888-07:00Hi Susan, I have been reading your blog for a long...Hi Susan, I have been reading your blog for a long time now and wanted to offer you some hope in the adoption process if you are interested. My daughter and her husband adopted a baby boy from S. Korea quite easily. They went through an adoption agency and there was absolutely no problems adopting our adorable grandson from an orphanage there. There are many children there that need good homes. Also an old friend of mine adopted three kids from China from an orphanage there easily as well. They also went through an adoption agency. It does take a few months for all the paperwork and a home study to be done, but well worth it in the end! If I were you and really wanted your own child I wouldn't give up the idea of adopting. There are also many kids here that are in the foster system that desperately need a good home. Their parents have given up their rights to them so no worry about them changing their minds. The same with a foreign adoption, the parents have already given up their rights permanently. Susan, you are a kind loving woman along with your husband that could give a child a wonderful home. Being childless is great for those that want to be, but I know you want a child of your own. Please start exploring legitimate adoption agencies. I think in the end adopting a child would bring both you and your husband much happiness! I can send you the name of the adoption agency that specialized in foreign adoptions that my daughter and her husband went through if you are interested.... Our little S. Korean born grandson is the light of our lives! Laura Lilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10736273103580030390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-63790959956784022632016-09-22T19:05:37.674-07:002016-09-22T19:05:37.674-07:00Susan, so sorry for all the hurt and prying questi...Susan, so sorry for all the hurt and prying questions. Our middle son and wife who live in Houston chose not to have children and their lives are actually very full. He is an artist and she works in the government. I never judged them for their decision, it's theirs to make. They both come from large families as I had four sons (two are twins). My sister who lives in Katy Texas took care of our mom until she passed away and she then dated and married. Early in her marriage they tried to have a child but it never came about even with all the hormone treatments she took. Sometimes there is another plan unknown to us. She has filled her life as a pet foster/rescue mom and loves those animals like they are babies. She takes in the ones who have the worst problems and the old ones no one else wants. So maybe that was the unknown plan. She works and does the Houston rodeo organization circuit. Her life is full but I'm sure at times she still hurts. Whether it is choice or circumstance it is a private issue and I hope people will start to think twice before prying so deeply. You are a real blessing for Bentley and I'm sure he loves you very much. Hugs to you ! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06990201157913155982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-49938071505875181772016-09-22T13:34:20.758-07:002016-09-22T13:34:20.758-07:00I agree its none of their business, this is someth...I agree its none of their business, this is something so personal, between husband and wife. My sister is also childless, and I know that it hurts her, it hurts me for her. People can be so rude. I have witnessed it. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10890003336214567560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-40419905161621612612016-09-22T12:04:39.148-07:002016-09-22T12:04:39.148-07:00Susan, I so understand your situation. We were ch...Susan, I so understand your situation. We were childless for 13 years and the questions we were asked were often ridiculous. Blessings, Pam @ Everyday LivingPam Richardsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06155700433773658812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-81175324316023780822016-09-22T11:35:51.910-07:002016-09-22T11:35:51.910-07:00We have 2 children, but no grandchildren. I can...We have 2 children, but no grandchildren. I can't begin to tell you how many people ask US why they don't have kids. I vowed, when they got married, to NEVER EVER ask, push, probe about choices they made in their marriage. That includes kids. I have stopped doing lunches/ dinners with a couple of different groups of friends because all they talk about when we are together are their grands. It isn't that I am envious or sad about it, I simply don't have anything to add to the conversation. I doubt if the group misses my being there at all since I would have nothing to contribute. When I see the same friends one-on-one, I can listen for a while, and I enjoy hearing their stories, but it isn't the only thing we talk about. When it is 5:1, then the grand-talk is constant. My husband notices it much more when we are with couples, but when he is just with a group of guys he says it seldom is much of a topic at all. <br /><br />I think if each of your readers becomes more sensitive to this topic, and we mention it to 5 people, who mention it to 5 people, and so on and so on..... maybe there will be a few less thoughtless comments made as time goes on. Usually, however, the people who seem to say those things seldom "get" the message. ♡Chris K in Wisconsinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10656069642909892508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-43794682163018315182016-09-22T06:45:13.607-07:002016-09-22T06:45:13.607-07:00Thank you Sandi.Thank you Sandi.Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-12878294592045282482016-09-22T06:45:00.355-07:002016-09-22T06:45:00.355-07:00So true.So true.Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-8634350504337391992016-09-22T06:44:41.696-07:002016-09-22T06:44:41.696-07:00I would love to hang out with you too!I would love to hang out with you too!Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-80970351825855018982016-09-22T06:44:18.555-07:002016-09-22T06:44:18.555-07:00It is sad that we live in a world where we must de...It is sad that we live in a world where we must defend personal choices or situations that have been thrust upon us. Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-9285669764380984022016-09-22T06:41:31.069-07:002016-09-22T06:41:31.069-07:00Thank you Carrie. Thank you Carrie. Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-78176705344299899682016-09-22T06:40:21.849-07:002016-09-22T06:40:21.849-07:00We did not try the adoption route because I had se...We did not try the adoption route because I had several friends who did. Two of them had to return the babies because the birth mothers changed their minds. It was heartbreaking for them. Another woman and her husband tried to adopt a daughter from China. After years of paperwork and travel back and forth trying to adopt, they were finally successful, but their success was largely due to her husband being an attorney and he had the backing he needed as well as the financial support.<br />Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-64493784672683411252016-09-22T06:34:46.751-07:002016-09-22T06:34:46.751-07:00I am glad that after many failed attempts you were...I am glad that after many failed attempts you were able to have a child. Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-2086610409239006972016-09-22T06:33:49.114-07:002016-09-22T06:33:49.114-07:00Yes, Bentley is my baby.Yes, Bentley is my baby.Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-39624861384662468462016-09-22T06:32:49.422-07:002016-09-22T06:32:49.422-07:00Thank you for your kind words.Thank you for your kind words.Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-11182792185910717142016-09-22T06:32:06.630-07:002016-09-22T06:32:06.630-07:00Thanks for your undying support Robin. Thanks for your undying support Robin. Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-28251132629899192132016-09-22T06:31:22.548-07:002016-09-22T06:31:22.548-07:00I am so sorry that you had to endure prying questi...I am so sorry that you had to endure prying questions while you had cancer. I truly do not understand such insensitivity and would love to have a magic wand to make it stop. Love and hugs to you Pattie.Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-8832045407448341192016-09-22T06:00:47.822-07:002016-09-22T06:00:47.822-07:00Hugs. Just hugs.
Hugs. Just hugs.<br /><br />Sandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08702620069148109246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-59028789639691675412016-09-22T05:44:37.506-07:002016-09-22T05:44:37.506-07:00Susan, you owe no one the details. Kids are a bles...Susan, you owe no one the details. Kids are a blessing, but there are so many other blessings in life to focus on as well ♥<br /><br />summerdaisycottage.blogspot.comSummerhttp://summerdaisycottage.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-37734836587518355142016-09-21T20:56:31.182-07:002016-09-21T20:56:31.182-07:00Thank you for sharing, Susan. People can be though...Thank you for sharing, Susan. People can be thoughtless. I can't believe that woman pressed you like that. We have three grown children who do not have spouses or children. Most of our friends have grandchildren and talk about them a lot. They ask why our kids aren't married. I can't give them an answer for that. I kind of tune them out when they talk about their grands. <br />I'd love to hang out with you guys. We could talk about blogging! It is so hard to find friends with which you have stuff in common. Katie Mansfieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00016424092009814488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-14262515422360651732016-09-21T20:16:30.116-07:002016-09-21T20:16:30.116-07:00Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could actually ...Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could actually arrive at a point in society when not being the "norm" (but being within the law could be quickly accepted??? I'm not the "norm" in some ways and a person truly does get tired of the "group think" and of defending ones choices or beliefs. Sigh. hronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11014253180181099241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-36882488468069581242016-09-21T19:41:34.659-07:002016-09-21T19:41:34.659-07:00Thanks to your post and your vulnerability here I ...Thanks to your post and your vulnerability here I will be more sensitive to others who may be childless for whatever their reasons. Thank youCarrie @ Cottage Cozyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17722924566006835290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-79670930021796019392016-09-21T18:43:45.977-07:002016-09-21T18:43:45.977-07:00Susan, I am truly sorry. Funny, MY life was quite ...Susan, I am truly sorry. Funny, MY life was quite different - I had a baby at 19! And another at 23, and became a single parent at 26.....and raised them alone. It was so difficult, but it was the cards I was dealt with.<br /><br />Now my eldest - my first daughter - is 36 and she and her husband choose not to have children. They don't even want to try. They are educated urbanites who travel the world, have a dog, love their lives. My youngest daughter just gave me my first grandchild. My eldest LOVES her little wee newborn niece but STILL doesn't want children. She gets asked ALL the time, and when she says something similar to your response, she/they, too, get either a weird look or a rude bombardment of details. She says she hates it.<br /><br />My very best girlfriend for life tried for 25 years to have a baby and couldn't. She cried almost every time she even thought of it. People asked her all the time, too why they didn't adopt. She tried THREE times for adoption and all three times the birth mother changed her mind at the last minute. I thought she'd never get over it, it broke her heart - their hearts.......but back in early spring, at the age of 50 - they were granted an adoption. And NOW she gets asked how old her grandchild is. She knows she is old for it, but it is a dream come true for her. People are so judgemental. I wish people would just look into the eyes of these ladies to see the reaction they for the most part MISS. Again, I am sorry you hurt. I know your pup is your fur baby, as is my daughter's. I pray for peace for you in your heart of hearts. Hugs. ♥<br /><br />Michele M./ Finch Resthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08971943265328093734noreply@blogger.com