tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post983988709668343883..comments2024-03-26T02:10:41.394-07:00Comments on Ash Tree Cottage: Have You Ever Been Dumped By A Friend?Susan Freemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comBlogger58125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-86572940689438828672012-10-21T21:09:10.159-07:002012-10-21T21:09:10.159-07:00I agree with Barb. This has also happened to me ....I agree with Barb. This has also happened to me ... all the same things, why, etc. It may just BE that - interests change, people change, sometimes dramatically. If it was meant to be a true friendship, I think it would always be; and no matter how long the time in-between seeing or talking to each other, when you DO meet up, it's like two old shoes together again. I just think now that the "friend" in my case was meant to be there when she was, but not now. It opens the door for NEW friends to come in!!!!! :)RetroSandiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03148972559036739050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-88579037366702841622012-10-21T16:38:18.241-07:002012-10-21T16:38:18.241-07:00I'm sorry that you are feeling sad. I believe...I'm sorry that you are feeling sad. I believe that your former friend is the one who has lost.<br />I believe true friends would never do anyting like this. I hope you are feeling better soon.<br /><br />hugs<br />SissieSissie's Shabby Cottagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01142205878984008123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-11263276973541143512012-10-21T15:58:56.631-07:002012-10-21T15:58:56.631-07:00Wow! I can't believe there are 55 comments on ...Wow! I can't believe there are 55 comments on this post. I thought I was the only one that this had happened to. I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. I had a close friend who called me Little Sister. She suddenly stopped calling and started saying she was too busy to talk when I called her. It really hurt, hurt, hurt for a long time! I couldn't figure out what I did wrong. Then a mutual friend told me she had been shut out, too! So it wasn't just me. Later I found out several things had happened in my friend's life (she started an affair with another friend's husband) and she just didn't want to be a friend anymore. Once I understood, it didn't hurt anymore. But the fact that she would just shut me out really hurt and we don't connect anymore. Good riddance!Lottiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16966797619528997912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-83855246257301903662012-10-21T15:08:51.856-07:002012-10-21T15:08:51.856-07:00Hi Susan, I so relate to this post-I once had a fr...Hi Susan, I so relate to this post-I once had a friend as close as a sister, we raised our kids together and thought we'd be friends til the end. Then she up and stopped communicating with me. I wrote and wrote and called and called. Finally after about three years I called one more time and she answered-finally I learned she was jealous of the relationship I had with my daughters. It was like a death with the friendship ending...it hurt so much. I am thankful for those friends that have stayed through thick and thin..life and death. I am also so thankful for blogging friends too! You deserve the best. I am truly thankful for beloved pups who love us unconditionally!<br />Hugs, NoreenNanaNor'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03608980502430055753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-62048387602120824532012-10-21T14:14:14.605-07:002012-10-21T14:14:14.605-07:00This sounded so horrible...my heart felt just terr...This sounded so horrible...my heart felt just terrible. maybe there's a reason they disappeared you never know...have you contacted them to see...well its just terrible. I don't have alot of friends for the simple reason of so many things going wrong...I just decided to stay with myself..don't like being hurt by friends...believe if or not I just have some close facebook friends i never met in person...but them i wish i could...idk...so sorry...i hope your feeling much better sooner ...with love JANICEjanice15https://www.blogger.com/profile/12627069805196697224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-85283343702924536482012-10-21T13:23:04.956-07:002012-10-21T13:23:04.956-07:00Well, this is just terrible. I can't imagine a...Well, this is just terrible. I can't imagine anyone who would want to drop you as a friend. I am getting on my mean face. I bet Bentley is just feeling terrible for you and wanting to give you lots of love. And don't forget, we all love you.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />LauraSImple and Serene Livinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08390085017238133076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-84049245769204446002012-10-21T12:28:55.625-07:002012-10-21T12:28:55.625-07:00There is a saying that goes- People come into you...There is a saying that goes- People come into your lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. And only time will show which ones are which. Sorry for your hurt. Sending you hugs. GardenOfDaisieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03110646840082802721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-85007903364227919572012-10-21T12:08:17.053-07:002012-10-21T12:08:17.053-07:00I am so very touched by the kindness and generosit...I am so very touched by the kindness and generosity of my blogging friends. Your support is greatly appreciated. Blogging has carried me through some of the darkest days of my life ~ when my daddy died and I came close to losing my mom too. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart!<br />SusanSusan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-47105014581608933002012-10-21T12:02:58.207-07:002012-10-21T12:02:58.207-07:00Thank you Brenda!Thank you Brenda!Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-72070909758183456202012-10-21T12:02:28.869-07:002012-10-21T12:02:28.869-07:00Thank you.Thank you.Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-46696069150731715632012-10-21T11:51:27.016-07:002012-10-21T11:51:27.016-07:00Sounds like you have many friends here who care ab...Sounds like you have many friends here who care about you! Hope you enjoy your day with Bentley and That Girl. Thank you for being so honest and sharing your true feelings.Patty https://www.blogger.com/profile/16782608814859112853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-49016644215212162572012-10-21T11:42:45.571-07:002012-10-21T11:42:45.571-07:00Yes, this has happened to me. And it's such a ...Yes, this has happened to me. And it's such a shock. Such a painful thing to go through.<br />BrendaBrenda Pruitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14544794729410559072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-24525043325605726032012-10-21T11:41:53.542-07:002012-10-21T11:41:53.542-07:00I know exactly what you are talking about! True f...I know exactly what you are talking about! True friends don't do that. Lovely images in this post.Connie in Hartwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09127877285792861166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-23220037507350829652012-10-21T10:54:25.639-07:002012-10-21T10:54:25.639-07:00Judy as I have been reading all of these lovely co...Judy as I have been reading all of these lovely comments I have come to learn that we all suffer these set backs. It's helpful, or at least I think it is, to share these human frailties and to support each other. I have often heard it said that we create many of our own problems and I believe that to be true. If only we could remember to treat each other with kindness and in the way we would like to be treated. Thank you for your support!<br />Love,<br />SusanSusan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-20325383891379619562012-10-21T10:48:30.388-07:002012-10-21T10:48:30.388-07:00That's a wonderful and true reminder. Thank y...That's a wonderful and true reminder. Thank you!Susan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-2868987940006168972012-10-21T10:47:21.205-07:002012-10-21T10:47:21.205-07:00Dear Lori, I know that there is no pain greater t...Dear Lori, I know that there is no pain greater than for a mother to lose her child. I recall the debilitating sadness I felt each time I miscarried. Yet I also know that the pain I felt for my loss could never be as great as to lose a child later on. My heart goes out to you. Shame on your friend for turning her back on you at your time of great loss. I sincerely hope that you never blame yourself for the loss of her friendship. I will be honored if I can take her place in your life. Thank you for sharing your story with us.<br />Love,<br />SusanSusan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-2219670391766709382012-10-21T10:40:40.000-07:002012-10-21T10:40:40.000-07:00How true! It's such a wonderful quality, unco...How true! It's such a wonderful quality, unconditional love. We all need to be reminded and dogs do teach us that.<br />SusanSusan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-25924919604202450622012-10-21T10:40:03.538-07:002012-10-21T10:40:03.538-07:00Hi Susan. It is so hard when you lose faith in som...Hi Susan. It is so hard when you lose faith in someone who you thought was a good friend to you. I have that too and the sad thing is I don't even think she knows it. I really try to keep my head above it all, because I know that it is not anything that I did, and there are other ones involved that are so close and dear to me, that I just have to "turn the other cheek," as they say. Hang in there, the good always win!! And you do have Bentley, bless his heart..Happy Sunday..JudyJudy at GoldCountryCottagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10282585980012016892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-88858590405913429082012-10-21T10:38:40.371-07:002012-10-21T10:38:40.371-07:00first of all, belated Happy Birthday to you! I ho...first of all, belated Happy Birthday to you! I hope that your friendship is on the mend. Maybe the birthday card she sent you is an attempt to repair the rift. Let's hope so!!<br />SusanSusan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-67233113468649621012012-10-21T10:35:11.927-07:002012-10-21T10:35:11.927-07:00I was there fourteen years ago. I still do not kno...I was there fourteen years ago. I still do not know to this day why I lost the friend. I do miss her, but life goes on. I have learned that friends come and go in your life and just enjoy them while they are with you in the present. Betty https://www.blogger.com/profile/09718576668233061528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-34748708152177809162012-10-21T10:24:39.051-07:002012-10-21T10:24:39.051-07:00Susan, first off my heart goes out to you
She made...Susan, first off my heart goes out to you<br />She made me laugh so hard I could pee my pants, she became my sister she was so terrific, she held all my secrets-I felt so safe with her, she held me up when I lost my family members, she loved my kids and me, she was perfect- or so I thought.<br />It has been years and yet still no clue why she left my life, even hurt my kids too. When i lost my son last year, the darkest days a woman could ever face some crazy part of me thought she would come back, at least to express her sympathy. She didn't. I can't believe it, she adored my boy. Looking back now as so many had told you, she had the problem, not me. I had blamed myself for so long for some mysterious thing I surely had done or said. Not any longer. Wish I was ther to replace your void, I AM a faithful friend! Lori Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13260211673617167087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-50415579777115113762012-10-21T10:18:23.830-07:002012-10-21T10:18:23.830-07:00In one of my recent posts, I said that God gave us...In one of my recent posts, I said that God gave us dogs to teach us unconditional love. Most people could learn from dogs because people always have conditions. Just give up your sadness to the Lord! Then it becomes his problem. That's what He teaches us - "Do not be anxious about anything......"<br /><br /> XO Helene<br /><br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-29065195031765678192012-10-21T10:01:50.604-07:002012-10-21T10:01:50.604-07:00I have a sampler that my grandmother made.....Make...I have a sampler that my grandmother made.....Make new Friends Keep the old One is silver the other gold.<br />SO sorry, I do know how you feel. My only friend from school just totally stopped calling, writing, sending bd cards. She lives in Florida and I live in Ohio. She never forgot a birthday. I would call or email and ask what I did. She would say no. What I think happened was her son got into trouble and she couln't deal with it and shut me out of her life That was years ago...........I did get a birthday card this month. Maybe their is hope as well. I don't think you did anything, her life probably changed and she did as well. But it is hurtful.<br />((((HUGS))))Debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04242778760582160429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-89510230416609150272012-10-21T09:52:55.330-07:002012-10-21T09:52:55.330-07:00Oh Mary ~ so sorry to hear that this happened to y...Oh Mary ~ so sorry to hear that this happened to you too. You are such a sweet soul. I just can't imagine anyone not treasuring your friendship! I certainly do!!<br />Love,<br />SusanSusan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1112304885994073400.post-90842308514814641042012-10-21T09:49:49.319-07:002012-10-21T09:49:49.319-07:00This has never happened to me before. I have kept...This has never happened to me before. I have kept close friends since childhood. I suppose that's why it was such a shock. I am moving on and counting my blessings and not this one loss.<br />Love,<br />SusanSusan Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323206599839838089noreply@blogger.com