Throughout the year I get along okay. I miss my parents, my grandparents,
my aunts and uncles on a regular basis. The holidays are tough ones for me.
I never had brothers and sisters, and I have never had children, so my parents,
grandparents and my aunts were the only family I had. Sometimes I really
want to talk to them. I miss their laughter and wise advise as I navigate
through this world alone. I love my husband, and we have a good
marriage, but I still feel lonely during the holidays.
Love,
Susan and Oliver
I know my husband misses his Mom most at Christmas. His Father died the he was very young. There was older brother but 7 years apart in age. Is it was basically just the two of them. When his
ReplyDeletemother died we did the house clearing and she had dozen of Christmas tea towels. Every year we pull them to use it's like she is there drying dishes, it gives him a smile.
I feel your pain. I have an older brother and two younger brothers (Mom had four boys, bless her heart) so I had plenty of interaction with them but, I do miss my maternal Grandmother. She made the absolute best Wild Plum Jelly in the world! (my opinion) I miss her dearly. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you and yours!
ReplyDeleteRichard, I miss my maternal grandmother so much, too - especially around the holidays. But it is also the time I feel her nearest to me. Your comment really struck a chord because lately I have been reminiscing about her homemade plum jam! How blessed we all are to have had grandmothers that left such wonderful memories.
DeleteI totally understand the sadness that seems to be so strong during this season of memories - both old and new. I hope your memories bring you a sense of closeness with your history of love within your family. I too feel a sense of loss regarding my good friend who died this past year; I frequently think of things I want to chat with her about. Sending you hugs from Ohio today and through this season.
ReplyDeleteSusan, you have such a lovely blog and I enjoy visiting. I know how you are feeling now. Even though we have three grown children and three grands, I miss my nuclear family so much. More as I get older (70). My only brother passed at 45, my mom a year later, and my adorable father 10 years ago. I "talk" to them daily but they don't respond, or if they do I miss the signals they send. It is a difficult time especially this year but we have our husbands, dogs, and the wonderful loving memories to cherish. Happy Holidays.
ReplyDeleteYes, the holidays are the hardest, when our loved ones are not here with us anymore. My grandparents and parents and aunt are gone... one of my sons too... and many of my friends. It is especially hard during the holidays, but hard all the time anyway. I am so so fortunate to have 2 sisters..... one just passed last year and I miss her daily. Sometimes we just want to have them to talk to and be with. When I sit and look at my tree and the lights, it reminds me of days gone by when I was younger and my parents and aunt and grandma were alive and well. We had many happy times. It would be especially hard without sisters. Marilyn
ReplyDeleteGod Bless. I'm almost in the same situation but single. My Mom is almost 88 so I thank God for everyday I'm with her. It's hard watching them grow old and weak. I don't know what I will do when I'm older and weak with no one to help me like I help her. Her parents had 11 children and she's the last one. My grandparents all passed before I was born or before I started school. The few memories I have truly are special. I had two favorite Aunts, one from each side and miss them dearly. I wish I could have seen visited them when I finally retired but it wasn't meant to be.
ReplyDeleteI can’t pretend to understand the depth or breadth of your loneliness, but I am deeply sorry just the same. Having lost my Mom/best friend last year just before the holidays, I do know how that stabbing pain comes to the brain and the heart, though. Take care.
ReplyDeleteI understand that. I do have family but I miss my little Grandmother Stella. I think she is one of the only people in my life that loved me unconditionally. What a sweet picture of you- xo Diana
ReplyDeleteWhat a sweet picture of you and your grandmother. It is hard to miss those we love, especially at Christmas time. Be at peace and have a blessed Christmas Susan.
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We lost my mother-in-law this year, and I have one uncle (95) otherwise everyone is gone on both sides. It's hard to think of yourself as the oldest, and last. Hugs, and isn't wonderful we have blogging friends to share these thoughts with...because you, we, the next blogger are not alone! Merry Christmas, Sandi
ReplyDeleteYou are not alone. We care. I too, have lost my entire family. Lucky to have my husband of 52 years. May God bless you and keep you healthy and safe.
ReplyDeleteThe holidays can be lonely for a lot of people. We definitely don't gather like we did when we were younger. We spent every Christmas holidays with my maternal grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, cousins. We had the best time. Food, fun, presents, sleepovers. I had the most wonderful grandparents and think about them everyday. This year because of covid it will be just my husband and me. I'm planning a turkey dinner for just us and we are looking forward to it. No stress, no having to be anywhere. Hopefully next year we'll meet up at my sister's in Las Vegas, but this year it's just us and I'm totally okay with it. What a nice photo of you and your grandma. She has such a sweet face and I'm sure you miss her terribly. They're always around us. Not the same, I know. But still there just the same. Have a wonderful day.
ReplyDeleteSusan, how much I identify with your posts. I have lived away from family for 40 years and never a holiday passed that I did not long for family and days gone by. Too much time for sure. 2021 will bring changes because I am going home to live near family. Husbands are special but those old familiar traditions and people from our past bring wonderful memories that bring more joy to life. I will think of you from now on and know that there are those who I can invite to my home to make new memories and adopt as family. Blessings always
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