Thursday, May 5, 2011

Reflections on Mother's Day

Mother's Day is always bittersweet for me.
I spend lot's of time focusing on my own dear Mom
and try so hard to ignore my own heartache.

I have suffered many miscarriages. I have cried many
many tears. I will never know the joy of holding my own baby
in my arms.

I have been badly hurt by the uncaring words of others.
An in-law told me that I must have done something
terrible in another life and am being punished in this one.
She actually took pleasure from these words to me and
reinforced it by sending me a book on reincarnation
and underlined every passage she though pertained
to my situation.

It's been a tough path, but the pain has eased a bit.
I have had help from those who have experienced their own losses.
I have spent many hours volunteering for children's programs
at schools and libraries.
I have mentored a troubled young girl.

I have focused on what I have, rather than what I have missed.
And I have dear little Bentley.

To all of you who are mothers ~ I wish you the happiest of
days. Hug your son or daughter and know how truly
blessed you are.

This weekend please visit

Bentley sends you all lot's of kisses!

Susan and Bentley


  1. My dear Sister, you would have made a great Mother. We cannot understand the whys sometimes, but HE knows, so we go on with the blessings we do have in our lives. A recent blessing I have is YOU.
    Much love,

  2. I have tears in my eyes as I read your post. I cannot believe how uncaring and basically mean someone (let alone someone related to you) could be.

    I will be honored to have your post be part of my Mother's Day at Seasonal Sundays. I'm sure you would have been a terrific Mother. Lucky Bentley.

    I appreciate your comment on my Royal Wedding Breakfast Part I and thought you might like to know that Part II is up now.

    - The Tablescaper

  3. This post brought tears to my eyes. While I still have my mom she is in very poor health, while her mind is ok for the most part her body is failing rapidly from diabetes.

    Our child is four legged also, and I've endured many of the same cruel words. You've done amazing nurturing by giving of your time and mentoring. Have a wonderful weekend!


  4. I am so sorry for your losses and even more sorry that anyone could be so cruel and insensitive. God Bless you for turning your loss into positive action.

  5. Sorry people are so cruel Susan... wondering if your relative is my ex-boss??? Have a great Sunday and give Bentley a goodie for me:@)

  6. I'm so sorry. As someone who experienced secondary infertility which led us down a completely different path to motherhood, I remember the unpleasant conversations from coworkers and friends who couldn't understand what we were going through. Please know that I'm thinking of you. Blessings this weekend. Hugs to you and Bentley.

  7. There are a lot of wonderful people out there. THEN there are the people who are totally clueless. I'm so sorry you have had to experience such hurtful stupidity. Take care,Susan

  8. My dear sister-in-love never had the chance to be a Mother. She has however, been Mother to many sweet furry friends. She will attend our Mother's Day Tea and be treated as a Mom by my girls and myself. God forbid anything happen to me, I know she would lovingly Mother my girls. We honor her for all she does for us and for our furry friends.
    I understand your pain because I've shared her pain. All I can say is God loves you dear child of His heart. Never doubt it. Take your heartache and pain to Him, He will comfort you. I pray you, Bentley, and your Mom have a very special day together. You are in my prayers.

  9. I think Bentley appreciates you as his mommy.
    I miss my dear mother to and I too am not a mother....I understand.

  10. Oh Susan i know your pain. It took me along time to get my own child and sadly after him no more came. That's been a HUGE disappointment for me.
    We never know what life has in store for us or why. But just ignore cruel remarks... people can be ignorant as i have experienced many many times!!!

    Pamela xo

  11. I am so sorry. Children are a blessing but not having them isn't a curse. People are cruel. So glad that you have filled your life with children. My cousin did the same thing. She had many neices and nephews that loved her dearly.
    Again, I am glad you have Bentley. ((((HUGS))))

  12. Bentley surely has a great mom in you! Our little furry friends give us such comfort and joy. I'm sorry for your loss, but look around and love those close to you. May God Bless. Mumzie

  13. Susan ~ you would have been a wonderful mother. Do NOT listen to others and their hurtful words. I know the pain of losing a child. I lost my little Samantha at 7 months old due to a heart condition. I know how you feel. Please rest assured that God does have a plan. Maybe you would not have mentored that troubled girl and she would have been lost without YOU.

  14. I am sure that you would have been a wonderful mother. I cannot understand how someone could be so thoughtless and cruel. I hate it that sometimes life is so unfair. Please give Bentley a big hug from me.

  15. Susan, what a terribly cruel and wicked way to treat you!! I ache for the hurt you must have felt. ((((hugs)))) My faith teaches that the blessings you are not able to embrace here on this earth, you will be given the chance to partake of in the world to come. You will be a mother yet, and in the meantime you get to practice loving and caring for others, oh and little Bentley of course! xxoo

  16. Oh Susan! This post brought tears to my eyes! I had a miscarriage once, it was horrible! But I did go on to have 4 more children. Everytime I read a post about this type of situation it makes me appreciate even more how lucky I am! And you are a mommy to your little Bentley! And as far as cruel comments go just remember KARMA!! Have a great Mother's Day w/your little fur-baby!!

  17. I've never understood how some people can be so cruel, but honey, in the short time I've known you, I already understand what a BIG heart you have, the kind that would make your momma proud!

    Hugs to you and Bentley!

  18. I'm so sorry Susan. People can be so stupid some times. You are a momma to your sweet little fur baby and he looks so happy! Hugs to you!

  19. Sweet Susan, here's {{{hugs}}} for you! I also endured infertility, had one miscarriage at age 42...we eventually adopted two children from Romania. That's been a very hard road as well. I had all those unkind things said to me as well, which heaped unbearable pain on top of the unbearable pain I was already in. I hope it helps that I know and understand you, and I'm here if you ever want someone to talk to.



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